Overthinking everywhere
I see it all around me, and I am the first to do it: most of us are overthinking most of the time.
We should be looking for simple explanation, or no explanation at all, where we instead try to understand everything. We should trust our guts.
« Do you think he said this so that we understood that, but she did not understand because she can’t possibly understand because of this? » Maybe, maybe not. You’ll never know unless you ask.
« Do you think I should call this recruiter to say that I really want this job? Because if I did, I might look too pushy and they probably already chose someone anyway so that is useless. » Yes, call him, speak your mind, you want to be hired as who you are.
« Should I tell on Facebook that I am looking for a job? Won’t I look desperate? My friends won’t be able to help anyway, I should probably do nothing. » Well if you don’t want to find a job, that is indeed the way to go.
« What he said really hurt me, he is such an ass, why did he say this? » Pick up the phone and ask.
This is so hard to overcome. Not overthinking and picking up the phone when needed is probably the two most important things I learned recently. And sometimes we should just apply the mentality « I don’t give a damn, I will mind my own business and keep pushing forward ».
